I’ll be honest; I got no fckin clue these days. And I’m not sure I can “blame” my uncertainty on Covid.
Beginning of the year I was seeking advice on a legal issue, having anxiety about the affect of the legal issue on relationships with step-family, and debating on entering the dating world (“because it was time”).
Then mid March Covid came to light. Restrictions went into affect and I had an over abundance to alone time. In a weird way I was grateful for the restrictions Covid was having on MY life. November 2019 it was made very clear to me that I needed to reevaluate my priorities and why I STILL was putting others before myself. With the restrictions and the fact I still was going to work, I wouldn’t have to lie to step family about why I wasn’t driving up for visits.
Don’t get me wrong (please); I am sad that our world is going thru such a troubling, uncertain time. I pray daily for healing, compassion, and resources for those who need assistance. But the “stay at home” orders gave me permission, that I may not have otherwise given myself, to isolate and re-evaluate my life. Gave me time to realize who “has my back”, who doesn’t, and what I should do about it.
and that’s where my “challenges” arise. Up until last November, all my life decisions were influenced on another person. It’s both liberating and paralyzing to realize I can do what ever the fck I want.
Some days I know what I want with such certainty and start aligning with those wants. I’ve had a few days though that the fear of “is this what’s best for me” could peel paint off a wall! But it really isn’t the fear of “is this what’s best for me” as it is a fear of “will this lead me to him?”, will “he find me if I make this move?”
I’ve been divorced for five years now. I never imagined still being single at 50 and not finding love again. But my faith is wavering and I’ve become so comfortable being single. And I don’t know what to do or how to stay certain that my special person is looking for me, wondering where I am just as I am wondering that about him.